Attacks the frame
Hostile reframing
They restate your position in words that make it sound worse.
The first tell
You feel misdescribed. That feeling arrives before you can name the move.
What it sounds like
You say you'd like to keep separate bank accounts. They say: So you're planning your exit.
Say back
Those are your words. Mine were: separate accounts.
If they push
It means the same thing.
It doesn't. I'll say what I mean, and I said accounts.
How this family is disarmed
Reject the premise and restate it in your own terms.
Paid
See it in dating and at work
Context packs show this tactic in the settings where it does the most damage, and let you drill it against a timer.