Attacks your feelings and bonds

Love bombing

Intense affection arrives very fast, before trust has had time to form.

The first tell

You feel swept up. That feeling arrives before you can name the move.

What it sounds like

After two dates they send gifts daily and say: I've never felt this. You're my soulmate.

Say back

I like you. I'm going to keep my own pace.

If they push

If you felt the same, you wouldn't need to slow down.

Going slowly is how I find out what I feel.

How this family is disarmed

Weigh actions over words and keep your own pace.

If this is a pattern with someone close to you, and you feel afraid or controlled, a better comeback isn't the fix. Read when to stop arguing and where to get help.

See it in dating and at work

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